We will talk about the anatomy of habits, discuss BJ Fogg's work on tiny habits and then address some things which make successful habit implementation more likely. This episode is meant to revisit some of the aspects of the Happy Habits interview episode (number 26) and to add a different approach to habits that is easy and helpful. We will also talk about the obstacles and excuses that can trip you up.

For those of you who want to delve deeper into the topic of habits I can recommend two books:

• The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
• Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin

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Comfort and convenience

• We seek comfort through convenience.
• The time that convenience was designed to create for more important things is often taken up by more convenience
• Convenience is a never ending task.
• Our tolerance for discomfort steadily decreases which in turn is related to a lowering of our psychological well-being
• A way out is to allow more risk and failure back into our lives

Consumerism

• The number of ads outnumbers probably all other messages we get every day
• Without thinking about our relationship with consumerism it controls us
• Rethinking consumerism is not about saying goodbye to fun and joy
• It's about aligning what's important to us with how we spend our energy and resources
• This creates room for the great stuff

Antidotes

• gratitude
• savouring
• mindfulness
• thinking about values and what you do and don't do
• creation

Resources mentioned:

The Upside of your Dark Side by Todd Kashdan & Robert Biswas-Diener

Related episodes:

• Positive Money
• Savouring

You can download any Audible book for free (psychology or say the Harry Potter series) if you go through strengthsphoenix.com/audible . I am currently listening to Adam Grant's Originals, Brené Brown's Rising Strong and The Candy Machine by Tom Felling.

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One of the most interesting ways to implement positive psychology is by using techniques from the arts. You don't have to be a liberal arts college major to use and enjoy these techniques. Shannon Polly and I discuss how acting as if, posture, reading great speeches and improv theatre techniques help her Fortune 500 clients grow personally and develop and stronger executive presence. We also discuss how acting and authenticity relate to each other and have a special fun surprise at the end.

Shannon is a leadership development facilitator, coach, speaker, author and founder of Shannon Polly and Associates, with degrees in both music and drama. She is also among the first 150 people in the world to graduate with a Masters of Science in Applied Positive Psychology.

You can learn more about her work at

http://shannonpolly.com/

Character Strengths Matter: How to Live a Full Live

Shannon mentioned the comedian Yakov Smirnoff in case you're curious what a comedian with a positive psychology degree is like.

Amy Cuddy's TED talk on how body languages influences how we feel.

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Sonja Lyubomirsky The How of Happiness

Michelle McQuaid's Strengths Challenge

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Audible does sponsor the podcast so should you decide to go through this link I will get a little something to cover the costs such as hosting at no extra cost to you. I love Audible and have been a customer since 2006 and a member with 1 or 2 books each month since 2010.

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Episode 10 was for the guys, this one is for the ladies. Niyc Pidgeon, a positive psychologist who works mainly with female entrepreneurs and I discuss the differences between coaching men and women, when coaching makes sense, self-care and what kind of interventions Niyc uses with her clients to make them even more successful.

Find out more about Niyc at http://www.niycpidgeon.com/

Niyc mentioned this book:

Second Wave Positive Psychology by Kate Hefferon, Itai Ivtzan, Tim Lomas and Piers Worth.

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Elaine, a listener of the podcast, wrote in and suggested that I cover shame from the perspective of positive psychology. We will look at the work of Brené Brown, a rockstar shame and vulnerability researcher. Furthermore I will also address shame from a personal point of view, simply because not talking about it breeds more of it.

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What do we sacrifice on the altar of speed and instant everything? Why is the imperative for speed bad for you and what can we do about it? We will talk about some of the surprising benefits that patience has on our lives.

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Who doesn't want more happiness, optimism and balance in their life? Self-compassion, championed by Dr. Kristin Neff, is one of those things that almost nobody has enough of. We are very self-critical because we're afraid otherwise we might lose our edge. That is however not true so why continue beating ourselves up? In this episode we explore what self-compassion is, why it's often misunderstood and what we can do to get more of it.

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Thanksgiving is over but regardless of the time of the year it's really helpful to be conscious of all the resources that are at our disposal. It provides us with perspective and show us that whatever is bothering us, is not the only thing we have (or lost) in life.

In this episode we talk about 16 categories, some of which we don't usually think about, when thinking about what we have.

If you are unhappy with your own resources you can use this list to build resources the same way people traditionally think about building wealth.

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The holiday season has kicked off and people all around the world are wondering what to do about 'negative' family members. Waiting them to change has not helped so what now? Try to involve them in a strengths-based conversation. See how different the conversation pans out when we start asking more meaningful questions than 'how are you?' I invited Erica Virvo on for this demonstration because her fun and adventurous spirit has led her to experience the kind of life many people dream they could lead themselves (hint: she's not a trust-fund baby).

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Dr. Richard Wiseman is on a mission to make people go to sleep more often and more deeply. You will hear what happens we we sleep, what happens when we don't sleep enough, the benefits of sleeping, how to fall asleep more easily and a little bit about dreams.

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